Carmen Carey-Griffin

"Most relationships fail because of lack of communication and lack of understanding. Persons need to understand that without trust, understanding and communication in a relationship you are bound to fail.  One had to know the person that they are with in order to have a long-lasting relationship.  You cannot just meet somebody and expect to spend the rest of your life with that person, because once you do not know that person there is always going to be room for mishaps and all kind of negative impacts in your relationship.  Once you thoroughly get to know that person you will know how to deal with that person.  When a problem arises you will know whether or not this is the time to pick a fight or if it is something that you should leave alone.  Once you know that person you would know how to deal with situations.  You cannot go just pick up a man or woman off the street and think I am going to be with that man or woman - you would be heading for disaster." Carmen Carey-Griffin

 

 

Carlyle James

"Well to be honest, I think the whole thing stems from bad communication and trust.  If you cannot communicate with whomever it is (your girlfriend/boyfriend) then you would not be able to do anything.  Most relationships start with some sort of lust - it can start  with lust and then develop into love but in terms of communication and trust, without   them nothing can go good."  

 

"First, let me say that I think all relationships will eventually deteriorate mainly

Kai Davis

because people change.  Eventually there is going to be something about you that I do not like and maybe you yourself might change.  There may not be anything wrong with the person that you are with but you just need to go your separate ways.  Another reason could be because in the beginning of the relationship you did not want a relationship - you wanted something else.  People get impulsive so they jump into relationships without getting to know the person on a friendly level or something like that - starting small."

 

 

Adul Robinson

"Most relationships fail because most of the persons are not ready for it.  They just go in because of goodness sake.  Sometimes, I think when you go into a relationship you should stop and think, do I really love this person or is it that I want something out of it? Most people in relationships are not ready or they just don't care.  They just go in to get something and then they come back out."

 

                                               
   "Most relationships fail and break down because of a lack of communication;

Uthant Dillion

sometimes one party does not want to stay in the relationship or one party may be too immature for a relationship.  Most people now do not want to go into a long term relationship.  They think that the more people they deal with, it is building their reputation but it is really breaking down their relationship.  So relationships  fail because of a lot of different reasons." Uthant Dillon

 

I personally think that the reason our relationships with other people fail is because the relationship that we have with our self is broken.  We cannot love another unless we can first love ourselves.  If you have a self-recriminating attitude you are bound to have a hateful attitude toward anyone who tries to extend love to you.  You cannot recognize and accept what you do not know and if you do not have love inside you cannot receive it from another person.

 

Too many times people enter into relationships so that the other person can fix them. They feel that the relationship can fill up the emptiness and create a sense of self love and acceptance and thus they rely on that person for emotional stability.  However, people are not often who they say they are and you have to see if that person holds up to the image that they present or else at the end of the day you will realize that you built your entire self-concept on a lie and that in itself is shattering.

 

According to author William S. Cottringer, healthy relationships require a natural balance between giving and taking.  Let me again reiterate that we cannot give what we do not have and both persons involved in the relationship need to give as much as they take not only emotionally, but physically and financially as well.

 

Cottringer also emphasizes that good communication is key to having a good relationship. ~~adz:right~~

 

"Good communication requires intentional listening to respect and understand the other person better, open expression, thinking about what you are saying and why you are trying to say it, and appropriate reactions.  It also involves little kindnesses, not always having to be right, the courage to confront potential conflicts and consistent assertiveness."

 

Quite simply put you do not ALWAYS have to be right and when something bothers you instead of letting the problem grow and fester you address it right away.  We don't let garbage pile up in our homes and harbour flies, insects and rodents and it is only fair that we treat our relationships the same way and not allow problems to accumulate because they will in turn fester resentment and other ill feelings that will break down any relationship.

 

~~adz:left~~Why do relationships fail?  Relationships fail for a lot of reasons: sometimes one party is more motivated than the other and they think that the other party will hold them back; sometimes problems fester and resentment takes over the relationship; sometimes people cheat and hurt each other and sometimes people lie to cover up their tracks and compound the problems (especially if that person is a terrible liar).  I personally think that if we all knew the answer to that question we would all be happily coupled-up and broken hearts would be a thing of the past.  However, the ugly truth is that we do not know why relationships fail and that is why we often fail so miserably at them.

 

But when we fail there is only one thing that we can do: we can examine our behavior and make a better choice.  Sometimes you just have to get back up and brush that dirt off your shoulders because sometimes... trust me...it is just not worth it.