BASSETERRE, St. Kitts – AS a woman, I have always believed that all women should try their best to be independent and always have money to cater to their every need at any given time.
However, is it right for a man to dance with a woman all night at a party or in a club and not offer to buy her at least one drink?
I do have the given right to approve or decline which individual I want to dance with me all night or part of the night without thinking he should buy me a drink. But then again, how does a man feel dancing all night with a woman then going to the bar and returning with one drink to continue where he left off.
Sometimes some men stick around and expect to be your dancing partner all night as if they paid your way into the party, but yet they do not offer to buy even one drink.
So, based on this perspective, SKNVibes asked a number of people…”If a man dances with a woman at a party, is he obligated to buy her a drink?”
Kim kicked off things with a confident yes while adding, “Some men are too cheap, they want to rub out my expensive clothes; so, of course they must buy a drink.”
A guy, who calls himself Mr. Vibes, cut no corners when he said, “No, hell no.”
Jazzel, in his early 20s, responded by saying he thinks the man should buy a drink without the girl even having to ask.
Local artiste S.M.I said, “Not obligated, that’s too strong of a word for this case but the man should be nice enough to offer the lady a drink.” “I would,” he added with a smile.
“No! A dance is just a dance, that doesn’t have anything to do with him buying a drink. That should be left up to his own discretion,” said by a young man name Rapheal.
Another young man, Roc, replied in the negative. He said most men do not have enough money when they go to the club to even buy for themselves. “Independent ladies should buy their own drinks in the club; because what happens if she gives me a dance…she wants a drink and I’ll want to take her home. Isn’t that a fair set of exchange?”
“No, no, no, not at all! Why can’t a woman buy a man a drink too?” questioned a somewhat furious Sean.
Twenty-five-year-old Hamilton said it is not a must but if the man is kind-hearted, why not. He believes that women should not ask for a drink just because of a dance.
Adding her input, Kimara said, “It shouldn't be an obligation, if women want to sweat out their perms or get dehydrated then that's them. Some women don’t even go to the clubs with money in their pockets, because that's all they rely on, which is pathetic.”
Sylvester, the last person to share his views, said, “I feel it's more of a choice than an obligation. But if it’s one dance I don't think a man has to buy a drink, but if its all night then I think he should.”
After reading the responses of contributors to this question, do you believe that women should buy their own drinks and stand in the club alone and play ‘stush’, or should men be more polite and offer to buy a drink while or after dancing with them?
