BASSETERRE, St. Kitts – TELEPHONE, one of the fastest and most efficient mediums of communication, but it can also be a real disaster in one’s life and relationships.
As Jamaican dancehall singer Kiprich said in one of his hit songs titled ‘Telephone Ting’, “Telephone thing mash up me life, a it a cause fuss and fight.” But some people believe that Lady G said it better when she counteracted with her version, stating: “A no telephone mash up you life but a you who no rate you wife.”
It would be fair to say that almost every mature person in St. Kitts and Nevis has a cell phone and it has caused some sort of argument in their relationship, whether it big or small.
I once saw a forwarded text message which asked, “If your blackberry was getting between you and your relationship, which would you get the rid of? And I thought to myself, “Are there actually people out there who would give up their boyfriend/girlfriend for their phone?”
A man said his phone almost cost him his relationship; he had to come up with an explanation as to why a certain individual was calling him.
It is often said what you do not know cannot hurt you, but some people, mainly women, like to go through men’s phones looking for answers, or would even go as far as to ask to use the phone with the intention of searching for certain details.
A young girl was recently caught in a situation where she had several text messages in her phone which her boyfriend came across. This resulted in her being beaten.
According to a married man, he normally has his phone on vibrate or silent, especially when with his wife. He said, “It is not that I have anything to hide but women pick up on every little thing and make it into something, even if it is not. And I don’t want to have to answer questions about who is calling me or sending me messages.”
Another man was quoted as saying, “My phone is always on me. Even when I go to shower I take it in the bathroom and hide it, because women like to search and call back numbers and I am not into that kind of drama.”
I am sure that there was a time when many of you at one point have forgotten to delete a certain text message or a certain BB conversation, or that five-minute conversation with a certain individual you know could cause problems in your relationship.
A-29-year old said she almost lost her life when her boyfriend choked her because she received a phone call from a man who she was said to be involved with. She said from that day she always stores her male friends as female names in her phonebook.
“I keep my phone lock to avoid all confusion, but some women so sneaky that even your pin number they would manage to get. So I still like to keep my phone on me to be on the safe side,” said a young chef.
Some people take drastic measures to find out information, which in the end only hurts them. So, the question is, why do we do it? One young lady took the cake when she said she once turned off her boyfriend’s cell phone and hid it while he was getting dressed for work. But after two hours had passed, she said she was so hurt and devastated at the messages he received from not one but several women, and all she could think to herself is…“Why did I do this?”
Cell phones are a necessity but when they become a problem what do you do?
Do you think it is right for a man or woman to violate each other’s phone just because they are in a relationship and are unsecure? Send us your feedback on this question.
